That's 3 words-the same word three times- to describe the next few months.
Firsts things first. Our follow up appointment was yesterday, and it went good, and it went bad. Everything is fine! Mom went with me, as Ben had class, and we got to hear the heartbeat again :) Then the Doctor reviewed my test results from a few different things. They were all normal. :) And he scheduled my next appointment and talked about my next ultrasound, but more on that later. So my next appointment is at the end of September.
Now lets get to the bad part. I asked the doctor what the difference was between what HE and what a midwife (at the same offices) does in a delivery. He pretty much told me exactly what I didn't want to hear. I really liked him too, and he knows my mom and works with Ben, so I feel kind of bad about my decision to try a midwife, but at the same time, its my delivery. He basically said that he likes to get the baby out safely in the shortest amount of time possible. Well, that's personally not what I believe labor should be like. Yes, it should be safe to the mother and baby, and it doesn't need to be drug out toooo long, but I am COMPLETELY against a woman going into the hospital and being given pitocin, when she might not have needed it in the first place, and then, because the pitocin speeds up the process, she's in so much pain that she has to have an epidural, and then the baby gets distressed, so the doctor has to "save" the baby with a c-section, just in time. This whole scenario is what I envision with this particular doctor and it really sucks because he is a super nice man. So I made my next appointment with a midwife. Ben knows her from working with her, so hopefully it will go well. Oh, and I'm not against epidurals... because believe me, I will be begging for one. I would just like to try on my own to give birth and Maybe not have to have pitocin, or maybe just later on after I've tried on my own for awhile. I think I have a pretty great team picked out to be in the room with me too. The hospital allows five people.
Ben-of course!
Mom- of course! and she says she will be my doula lol
Dad-will probably just want to watch...and cry
Avery- :)
And I have one slot left open if I decide to fill it.
I'm thinking about taking the people who express to me that they would want to be in the room, which so far is my grandmother... and basically having like a survivor challenge. Obstacles, races, nothing but rice and whatever they can hunt, leaving them stranded somewhere, and then voting them off. The tribe had spoken, please gather your things and leave the Pregnant Island immediately. All that jazz.
Just kidding!
Other than the people in the delivery room and people that live out of town and have to drive, we toyed with the idea of calling everyone else after the baby is born to come to the hospital. It might be nice for Ben and I to have some time alone with Finn before guests arrive. Also, I don't like the idea of people waiting in the waiting room on me like I'm on some kind of time clock. But my mind might change by then, I don't know.
Now, "doctor speedy" told me that I would have an ultrasound done at 18 weeks, which basically will check the growing process and also will tell us if it is a girl or a boy, because I'm a planner, and it's KILLING me now knowing if its made of sugar and spice and everything nice....or snakes and snails and puppy dog tails.
So if I have the appointment around 18 weeks, then I will hopefully know the gender before my birthday on October 15th. Then I will tell Morgan and Mom, but Morgan first... and then tell everyone else at mine and mom's (hers is the 11th) birthday get together. If for some reason they schedule it after my birthday, then I will tell Morgan and Mom, but Morgan first, and then everyone else will find out on Halloween, by my costume. I have some pink and blue costume ideas. That way when I walk into a room, everyone will go nuts. Ben and I have a feeling it will be a boy, but we'll see!
In other news, my brother in law is getting married in November. There are showers for Lacey-his fiance- starting in September. So I will get to go to those :) and I'm hosting one in October for her too! My wedding showers were so much fun, and I know she will enjoy them. Then the wedding is in November, and Ben is best man and I'm a bridesmaid, which will also be fun since I love weddings! Then theres my 3rd Anniversary in September, and my bday and then Thanksgiving, and Christmas! I FREAKING LOVE FALL!!!!! It hosts the best weather, and most exciting season. It all leads up to one most exciting thing....I get to quit my job!!!!!!!!!!! If nothing changes, I will have the great opportunity to be a stay at home mom. Don't get me wrong, I love love love my job, but it will be nice!
There's so much more to discuss, but I must get some dinner. Starving!
-Lauren <3
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